I write a lot about becoming your best self, loving yourself, getting weird. Breaking bad habits. Meditation. Happiness. To the outsider this might seem like overkill. It might seem like optimizing every area of your life is exhausting and a ton of work. And you would be 100% right to say this. In the attempts … Continue reading The Minimum Effective Dose for Self Optimization
Self inflicted Stress
The art of creating problems for ourselves It fascinates me how the mind can cling to a topic like a magnet and not let go of it. You read or watch something, have a frustrating conversation, perform badly, etc, and afterwards your mind is left reeling. Attached to the story of what just took place. … Continue reading Self inflicted Stress
The Brain Dump – How to clear your mind and relax
I speak to a lot of people who are stressed out, anxious, and frustrated about some area of their life - with no way to release it. They carry this stress around with themselves day in, day out, occasionally letting go by venting or waiting until it’s unbearable and they explode. For example the other … Continue reading The Brain Dump – How to clear your mind and relax
Gasoline vs. Logs – How to build and maintain high energy levels
I have VERY high energy levels. I’ve always been a jittery, talkative, bouncy and positive person bursting with energy and enthusiasm. Much of this is natural - I’ve always been this way and it’s the disposition I was born with. As a child I was diagnosed with ADHD - key letter in here being the … Continue reading Gasoline vs. Logs – How to build and maintain high energy levels
My Masturbation Meditation
In the journey and commitment to self love, there is no topic that I won't touch...including Masturbation. If we're going to have an honest conversation about self love, how the hell are we going to leave out the beautiful art of the wank!? No, not me. I want to touch this topic and play with … Continue reading My Masturbation Meditation
Why you should thank yourself more often
How often do you take the time to say “thank you” to yourself? How often do you take the time to thank yourself for the small things you do but don’t give yourself credit for? How often can you say to yourself - "Thank you for feeding me every day. Thank you for exercising me. … Continue reading Why you should thank yourself more often
I shower like I’m on ecstasy
How I implement self love in the shower every morning “Feeling myself I don’t even need an x pill” - Jay Z Let’s continue our journey of self love into another one of my favorite parts of my morning - the shower. How do you shower in the morning? Are you a robot who mechanically … Continue reading I shower like I’m on ecstasy
50 Ways to Love Yourself
Loving yourself is hard work. Takes commitment. It’s uncomfortable. Requires swallowing the bitter medicine. Especially for men, the concept of self love does not come naturally to us. Even if it doesn’t come naturally, we can still learn it. We can work on, and get better at, loving ourselves. To help you on your journey, I created … Continue reading 50 Ways to Love Yourself
My meditation for gratitude and self love
My favorite part of every 10-Day Vipassana Meditation retreat is at the end, when you learn to practice a technique called “Metta”, or peace loving kindness meditation. In a nutshell, I like to look at it as a meditation on gratitude, forgiveness, and love - for myself, for my friends and family, and for the … Continue reading My meditation for gratitude and self love
The things we know we should be doing…but don’t.
There’s an old famous quote that goes something along the lines of “anxiety is living in the future.” I generally believe this to be true. I believe that the root cause of most anxiety is thinking about the future and stressing ourselves out about it. Thinking about the “unknown” and “what might happen”. Visualizing or … Continue reading The things we know we should be doing…but don’t.