How I implement self love in the shower every morning “Feeling myself I don’t even need an x pill” - Jay Z Let’s continue our journey of self love into another one of my favorite parts of my morning - the shower. How do you shower in the morning? Are you a robot who mechanically … Continue reading I shower like I’m on ecstasy
50 Ways to Love Yourself
Loving yourself is hard work. Takes commitment. It’s uncomfortable. Requires swallowing the bitter medicine. Especially for men, the concept of self love does not come naturally to us. Even if it doesn’t come naturally, we can still learn it. We can work on, and get better at, loving ourselves. To help you on your journey, I created … Continue reading 50 Ways to Love Yourself
My meditation for gratitude and self love
My favorite part of every 10-Day Vipassana Meditation retreat is at the end, when you learn to practice a technique called “Metta”, or peace loving kindness meditation. In a nutshell, I like to look at it as a meditation on gratitude, forgiveness, and love - for myself, for my friends and family, and for the … Continue reading My meditation for gratitude and self love
The things we know we should be doing…but don’t.
There’s an old famous quote that goes something along the lines of “anxiety is living in the future.” I generally believe this to be true. I believe that the root cause of most anxiety is thinking about the future and stressing ourselves out about it. Thinking about the “unknown” and “what might happen”. Visualizing or … Continue reading The things we know we should be doing…but don’t.
Loving yourself means loving your flaws
I believe that a very important part of self-love is learning to accept your faults. Learning to accept the things that you don't like about yourself. Learning to accept yourself as you are right now, rather than as you want yourself to be. Many times we have an ideal version of ourselves that we want … Continue reading Loving yourself means loving your flaws
This year I am my own Valentine
This year, in my dedication to loving myself as thoroughly as I can, I will be my own Valentine for valentines day. I've decided that I'm in a dedicated relationship with myself and I'm taken by me. In the same way that in the past I've been committed to my girlfriends, I'm now committed to … Continue reading This year I am my own Valentine
The first thing I do every morning to love myself
What is the VERY FIRST thing that you do every morning when you wake up?I’m talking immediately after you wake up. While you’re still in bed. That first moment of consciousness. Do you wonder what time it is? Do you reach for your phone? Do you wonder if you should go back to bed? Is … Continue reading The first thing I do every morning to love myself
Trying to stop thinking is like telling the ocean to stop making waves
In many meditation practices there is a misconception that there is a need to “stop thinking” or “clear the mind” - that you will eventually reach a state of thoughtlessness with enough practice. I believe that this is an unrealistic goal and the primary reason why most beginning meditators get frustrated. Clearing the mind is … Continue reading Trying to stop thinking is like telling the ocean to stop making waves
Pain brings us back to the present moment
Using discomfort as an opportunity for mindfulness I’ve been meditating for the last 5 years now, but there’s one thing that I have consistently avoided….correcting my posture. I can sit up straight for about 20 minutes or so, but after that, I gradually start to relax, and by the time I’m 30-40 minutes in I’m … Continue reading Pain brings us back to the present moment
The 4 Levels of Non-Reactivity
"Learn to sit with the flies, allow them to land on your arm, walk around, and then fly away." Whether you’re studying Stoicism, Buddhist Meditation, Mindfulness, or simply practicing How to Not Give a Fuck, the underlying principle remains the same - How to become less reactive and more emotionally stable. How to cultivate a … Continue reading The 4 Levels of Non-Reactivity