50 ways love self love me myself

50 Ways to Love Yourself

Loving yourself is hard work. Takes commitment. It’s uncomfortable. Requires swallowing the bitter medicine. Especially for men, the concept of self love does not come naturally to us. Even if it doesn’t come naturally, we can still learn it. We can work on, and get better at, loving ourselves.  To help you on your journey, I created … Continue reading 50 Ways to Love Yourself

Meditation Gratitude Self Love

My meditation for gratitude and self love

My favorite part of every 10-Day Vipassana Meditation retreat is at the end, when you learn to practice a technique called “Metta”, or peace loving kindness meditation.  In a nutshell, I like to look at it as a meditation on gratitude, forgiveness, and love - for myself, for my friends and family, and for the … Continue reading My meditation for gratitude and self love

Trying to stop thinking is like telling the ocean to stop making waves

Trying to stop thinking is like telling the ocean to stop making waves

In many meditation practices there is a misconception that there is a need to “stop thinking” or “clear the mind” - that you will eventually reach a state of thoughtlessness with enough practice.  I believe that this is an unrealistic goal and the primary reason why most beginning meditators get frustrated. Clearing the mind is … Continue reading Trying to stop thinking is like telling the ocean to stop making waves

Getting lucky takes practice

Getting Lucky Takes Practice

"Gaining enlightenment is an accident. Spiritual practice simply makes us accident-prone.” - Suzuki Roshi There’s a famous story in the world of Zen Buddhism where the Zen master says to the student “Enlightenment is an accident.” To this the student stands up and yells in frustration, “Accident! You’re telling me that it’s all an accident?! If that’s … Continue reading Getting Lucky Takes Practice

How to not give a fuck

Training the “how to not give a fuck” muscle

I’ve recently come to the conclusion that meditation is actually a giant exercise in not giving a fuck. Instead of trying to clear your mind, meditation is actually all about how to give less fucks about the thoughts going through your head.  To watch a thought rise up, and have the ability to say “nah … Continue reading Training the “how to not give a fuck” muscle