Today I want to clarify an important point about meditation. For some reason there is an idea that meditation means to “stop thinking” or to “clear the mind”. I've met many people who try meditation for the first time and have this perception of thoughtlessness…and then when they try and notice their mind racing they … Continue reading Bring it back – Building the Present Moment Muscle
Anchoring to the Present Moment
Imagine you're sitting in a boat, relaxing and enjoying the calm waves on a beautiful sunny day. You lose track of time, and in your relaxation drift off to sleep. Next thing you know you wake up, but suddenly the shore is no longer in sight. You've drifted out to sea. Luckily, you have your … Continue reading Anchoring to the Present Moment
Appreciate when the waves are calm
I like to look at life like an ocean. Some days the waves are calm, some days the waves are choppy, other days the waves are enormous and will wipe you out. For much of my life, I never really appreciated how calm the waves around me were. Life has been very good to me. … Continue reading Appreciate when the waves are calm
Moods are like diseases
Whether we like it or not, we’re all sending and receiving frequencies of energy from each other when we interact with each other. This is why some people can pump you up. Others can leave you drained. Some can leave you sad or angry. Others can leave you happy and calm. It's why we say … Continue reading Moods are like diseases
Use your feelings as a compass
Most of us, whether we realize it or not, are addicted to thinking. Don't believe me? Try to stop. (Hint - You cant!) From as young of an age that we can remember, we have "thoughts" occurring in our mind. Popping up and drifting away, there's a constant dialogue going on in each and every … Continue reading Use your feelings as a compass
You are ALREADY the best version of yourself
One of the things that pisses me off about the world of self-help, self-development, etc etc. is that there is this assumption that there is something wrong with us. That we need to improve areas of our lives to become the best versions of ourselves. I'm guilty of it as well. I see the version … Continue reading You are ALREADY the best version of yourself
Only YOU can make yourself happy/sad/angry/calm
I believe that you and only you are in control of your happiness. If you are happy, it’s your fault. If you’re sad, angry, depressed, it’s your fault. Only YOU can control and regulate your mood on a daily basis. We can’t control what external events happen to us in life - but the one … Continue reading Only YOU can make yourself happy/sad/angry/calm
Every memory has a feeling attached to it
I want you to try an exercise with me right now. Close your eyes. Take five to ten deep breaths. Think of a memory that brings a smile to your face. Something that instantly makes you happy. Hold that image in your mind. Try to make it as vivid as possible. Then pause. Try to … Continue reading Every memory has a feeling attached to it
What if hell is heaven?
What if your idea of heaven was actually hell? What if hell was so amazing that you never wanted to leave? What if hell was full of all your wildest desires? The most beautiful place you’ve ever seen. A literal "heaven on earth, full of amazing food and drink, unlimited sex with beautiful people, nature in … Continue reading What if hell is heaven?
Cultivate a healthy “default” mode
If there’s anything I’ve learned in my short time on this planet, it’s that your day to day happiness is largely determined by your “default” mode. The highs of life get you high, the lows of life drag you down, but eventually, we always return to our status-quo, our equilibrium, our default mode. All of … Continue reading Cultivate a healthy “default” mode