One of the things that pisses me off about the world of self-help, self-development, etc etc. is that there is this assumption that there is something wrong with us. That we need to improve areas of our lives to become the best versions of ourselves.
I’m guilty of it as well. I see the version of myself that I want to eventually become, and compare it to the version of myself that I currently am. I examine the gap and work to make it shorter on a daily basis.
But in our journey of self improvement and self development, is this “gap” the very thing that is actually getting in the way of becoming our best selves?
In my opinion, the very notion of improvement or optimization implies that there is something wrong with us in the first place. This “gap” of who we want to become creates our sense of inadequacy, rather than accepting ourselves as who we currently are in the present moment.
It’s hard to love who you already are when you’re obsessed with the version of yourself you want to become.
Rather than focusing on the gap, what if instead, we focused on simply being the best version of ourselves TODAY.
You might want a better body, or a better job, you name it – but what can you do TODAY to make a meaningful step in the direction of your goals?
You see, you are ALREADY the best version of yourself. There’s not much you can do today to dramatically change who you are and where you are in life – so work with what you currently have to be the best version of yourself that you can be right now, in this moment.
The person who you want to become will always be a moving target. You will always be a work in progress. The person who you currently are however, is in your control right now.
What can you do today to be the best version of yourself? What can you today do to cultivate the perfect day?
You can work your ass off today, and prepare for tomorrow, but past that everything is a mystery.
Be the best version of yourself right now. You probably already know which habits you should be discarding, which new ones to implement, etc. You probably already know the diet and exercise routine you should be following. You probably already know what you need to do at work as well.
John Wooden (the all time most winning NCAA basketball coach), defines success as “Peace of mind which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you made the effort to do your best to become the best that you are capable of becoming.”
Peace of mind that comes from knowing you gave your best effort. Yea, I like that.
If you gave your best effort, if you were the best version of yourself, today, that day was a success. String a series of successful days and weeks together and you become a successful person, constantly improving and becoming the person you want to become while loving the person you already are 🙂
Also published on Medium.