I believe that our greatest strengths are also our greatest weaknesses. I believe we all have something we're naturally gifted at, but can harm you if not harnessed and used properly. Something the can be your best friend, or your worst enemy. Your double edged sword. For me, it’s my intensity. People always call me “intense”. … Continue reading Discovering Your Double Edged Sword
Treat People with Respect (Even if you don’t respect them)
The other day I was thinking about the phrase “respect is earned”, and how many people use this as justification for treating other people like shit. Many people take the approach of, "if I don’t respect you, or if you haven’t “earned” my respect, you don’t deserve to be treated the same as people who … Continue reading Treat People with Respect (Even if you don’t respect them)
The Melting Man
I become an unproductive piece of crap when I’m having sex all the time. I recently was swept off my feet by a beautiful brazilian woman. For six straight weeks I woke up to the best sex of my life every day. And during that time, I’ve been a lazy piece of shit. I wake up … Continue reading The Melting Man
Cultivate hobbies to cultivate a love life
I believe that there is an important paradox in life - the more comfortable you are spending time alone, the more capable you are to be in a relationship. Seems contradictory, but your ability to be in a healthy relationship is directly correlated to how comfortable you are spending time alone doing things that interest … Continue reading Cultivate hobbies to cultivate a love life
Living abroad has improved my relationship with my parents
I’ve lived away from home in foreign countries for the better part of the last 8 years. The most common question I receive is, “Do you miss your family?” or “Do you regret not spending more time with your family?”. Especially in the context of missing my parents. The truth is, no, I don’t miss … Continue reading Living abroad has improved my relationship with my parents
The Surprisingly Simple Secret to a Long and Happy Life
The other day I watched a TED talk called “The Secret to Living Longer May Be Your Social Life”. In this talk, Susan Pinker explores why a remote village in Italy has more than SIX TIMES the number of centenarians (people who live to the age of 100) than anywhere else in the world. What … Continue reading The Surprisingly Simple Secret to a Long and Happy Life
The Most Important Relationship In Life Is the One You Have with Yourself
My favorite book I’ve ever read is “The Art of Happiness”, by the Dhalai Lama and Howard Cutler. This was the first book that taught me about the importance of our inner dialogue. The conversations we have with ourselves. The little voice in your head that talks to you on a day to day basis. … Continue reading The Most Important Relationship In Life Is the One You Have with Yourself
Take care of yourself before helping others
One of my favorite buddhist principles is the need to take care of yourself before you help others. In Buddhism, when you practice “metta” meditation, you always begin with yourself. You say “May I be happy. May I be free from Anger, hatred, animosity, resentment, and ill will. May I experience real peace, real happiness, … Continue reading Take care of yourself before helping others
Why it’s Always “Your” Fault
Whenever something goes wrong many of us have a tendency to blame someone else. It’s human nature. Guy cuts you off while driving? What an asshole! Boss makes you angry? He’s a dick! Get into a fight with a friend or family member? They did x,y, and z to me! It seems like every time … Continue reading Why it’s Always “Your” Fault
How to Become Less Judgemental
Last week I stayed at an AirBnb. My host was an obese Russian man who sat on the couch smoking cigarettes and playing World of Warcraft all day. His place was filthy with dirty dishes lying everywhere, and smelled like it hadn’t been cleaned in months. He would often be up all night playing video … Continue reading How to Become Less Judgemental