People often tell us to “let go of our expectations.” Or that expectations not meeting reality are the root of most of our frustrations in life. I would agree with this. I believe that many people create problems for themselves because their idea of how they want things to be doesn’t match the reality that … Continue reading Trade Expectations for Intentions
If you’re hard on yourself you’re probably hard on others
I’m someone who is very hard on myself. I hold myself to high standards. I expect myself to perform at my best at all times. When I don’t, I become frustrated. When I do, I barely even notice my good performance because I’m too focused on the future and overlooking the present. Unfortunately, while this … Continue reading If you’re hard on yourself you’re probably hard on others
How to become less reactive and more emotionally stable
Whether you’re studying Stoicism, Buddhist Meditation, Mindfulness, or simply practicing How to Not Give a Fuck, the underlying principle remains the same – How to become less reactive and more emotionally stable. How to cultivate a healthy indifference. Note that this is different than avoidance or non-reactivity. The goal here is NOT to become an emotionless … Continue reading How to become less reactive and more emotionally stable
Train for the Moments that Test You
“Under pressure, you don’t rise to the occasion, you sink to the level of your training. That’s why we train so hard.” — Anonymous Navy Seal There comes a moment in life that tests you. A moment where your worst fears come true. A moment when all of your practice, all of your training, slaps you in the … Continue reading Train for the Moments that Test You
What I wish I knew Before Vipassana
An open letter to new (and old) students who wish to take a 10-Day Vipassana Meditation course, as taught by SN Goenka A 10 day Vipassana Meditation course as taught by Goenka is intense, confusing, and often frustrating. Although I’ve now completed my third (twice as a student, once as a server), I’ve definitely had my … Continue reading What I wish I knew Before Vipassana